Funny thing about being alone, it’s at those times that I feel most un-alone. Let me explain. I love talking to God and being in the presence of Him. Most of the time that means I’m by myself and there are no other people around. Of course, I can worship God and be among other believers but my most intense personal, intimate moments with Him have always been when I’m alone with Him, which is why I find it so, frankly, annoying when I’m chided about not always being around other believers. When I’ve taken these people’s advice and I get around the wrong type of person, more often than not, I’m left feeling confused or uncertain about the promises God has given me for my life.
When I’ve tried to speak this truth to what I’ll call the religious-types, often they get uncomfortable and think I’m wanting to be a hermit or something which is not the case at all. I sometimes wonder if they’re uncertain about their own intimate relationship with God.
Many people describe God as our lover. If you can think of Him in that context doesn’t it seem silly that we’d have onlookers in the same room with us as we’re sharing our most intimate dreams, desires and hopes?
Don’t you get frustrated when you’re with other people and they just don’t get you? Even our most dear, intimate friends don’t know everything about us or even get who we are all the time. Sometimes these moments can feel the loneliest.
Maybe you’ve always longed to be married and now you finally are married but your husband just doesn’t understand you. Or, you have worked all your life to have a bountiful group of friends and now that you have them there are misunderstandings, gossip, disagreements and betrayals. Isn’t it at those times you want to talk to God about your struggles? Don’t you feel better after talking to Him? That’s because He gets you–all of you–and He’s the only one who ever will.
All of us go through seasons in our lives where we have an abundance of people surrounding us and other seasons where it’s hard to find even a single friend. Jesus often spent time alone with God. In Matthew chapter 4 he was sent alone by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tested. He also often went to the mountain to pray. You can read about that in Luke chapter 6.
Yeah, yeah, I know we need to have the support of other people, and I’m not saying that’s not important or that I don’t like people. In fact, sometimes I like people so much that they use that power to hurt. My stance for overcoming all this, although unpopular at times, is to spend the most time alone with God. If we’re supposed to put Him first place in our lives, then to me that means spending the most amount of our time alone being un-alone with Him.