Being Un-Alone with God-Coffee For Your Heart Day

Funny thing about being alone, it’s at those times that I feel most un-alone.  Let me explain.  I love talking to God and being in the presence of Him. Most of the time that means I’m by myself and there are no other people around. Of course, I can worship God and be among other believers but my most intense personal, intimate moments with Him have always been when I’m alone with Him, which is why I find it so, frankly, annoying when I’m chided about not always being around other believers. When I’ve taken these people’s advice and I get around the wrong type of person, more often than not, I’m left feeling confused or uncertain about the promises God has given me for my life.


When I’ve tried to speak this truth to what I’ll call the religious-types, often they get uncomfortable and think I’m wanting to be a hermit or something which is not the case at all.  I sometimes wonder if they’re uncertain about their own intimate relationship with God.

Many people describe God as our lover.  If you can think of Him in that context doesn’t it seem silly that we’d have onlookers in the same room with us as we’re sharing our most intimate dreams, desires and hopes?

Don’t you get frustrated when you’re with other people and they just don’t get you?  Even our most dear, intimate friends don’t know everything about us or even get who we are all the time. Sometimes these moments can feel the loneliest.

Maybe you’ve always longed to be married and now you finally are married but your husband just doesn’t understand you.  Or, you have worked all your life to have a bountiful group of friends and now that you have them there are misunderstandings, gossip, disagreements and betrayals. Isn’t it at those times you want to talk to God about your struggles?  Don’t you feel better after talking to Him?  That’s because He gets you–all of you–and He’s the only one who ever will.

All of us go through seasons in our lives where we have an abundance of people surrounding us and other seasons where it’s hard to find even a single friend.  Jesus often spent time alone with God. In Matthew chapter 4 he was sent alone by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tested.  He also often went to the mountain to pray. You can read about that in Luke chapter 6.

Yeah, yeah, I know we need to have the support of other people, and I’m not saying that’s not important or that I don’t like people. In fact, sometimes I like people so much that they use that power to hurt.  My stance for overcoming all this, although unpopular at times, is to spend the most time alone with God.  If we’re supposed to put Him first place in our lives, then to me that means spending the most amount of our time alone being un-alone with Him.

Coffee-for-Your-Heart-150Coffee For Your Heart is a weekly challenge with Holley Gerth. Click on the heart to the left to find out how you can participate in this challenge too.

6 comments… add one
  • Anne Jan 30, 2014

    I really like your post here. I, too, relish my time alone with God much more than when I’m around other believers. I, too, have felt misunderstood about this. My most intimate moments and times I’ve heard God’s voice, I’ve been un-alone with Him. Thank you, thank, you for this! Visiting from right behind you at Holley’s!

  • jacqui Jan 30, 2014

    Janene-I loved this post. The part where you wrote about being intimate w/God would we want people looking on or something similar to that. I liked that. I would like to use it as an illustration in a talk I’m giving next weekend if that’s OK? Nice to have found you today through the link up.

    • Janene Roberts Jan 30, 2014

      Hi Jacqui, thanks and yes I’m honored that you would want to use part of what I said here in your talk. May your presentation be blessed with His power and presence.

  • Moneda ruble Jan 30, 2014

    Loved this post. Loved my Memoir Writing Class with you.

  • Holley Gerth Jan 30, 2014

    Thank you for the reminder that we’re not alone! So glad you linked up with Coffee for Your Heart this week! XO

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